Most people in serious relationships have one aim -marriage, but how do you know you have met the right one? even if you get married, how would you
know it would be "till death do us part".
In the search for the right one, your anxiousness may lead you to read false or mixed signals and you'll end
up making all the wrong moves. People have different personality types, hence no two dating patterns are
the same.
For those still looking for the right life partner,you get to meet before landing the right one (This list
doesn't apply to everyone):
1. The Crazy One: If you’re still single and have yet
to date the crazy type, get ready. They’re too good to
be true because, well, it’s a lie. You mistake their fits
of rage after finding a text from an associate as
“caring.” At first, you’ll perceive their behavior as “a
symptom of being in love” instead of the red flag that
he/she is controlling and possibly covering up their
own tracks. Everyone has allowed their emotions to
get the best of them at some point, but this person
always does. You’ll find them staked out in front of
your crib at three a.m. because you didn’t reply to
their text messages right away. This is one of the few
personality types that most won’t deal with for long.
Insecure people like this will drive any sane person
away fast, but these types usually prey on those with
low self-esteem. Their insanity often turns into
physical and mental abuse, a tool they use to
manipulate and keep you at bay. Hopefully, you’ll be
gone before I finish this sentence.
2. The Best Friend: You’ve been friends for quite
some time, but are just now noticing that you’re
attracted to each other. You know each other: from
their favorite foods to that time he slept with his
college roommate’s girlfriend. The friendship is too
sacred for the relationship not to work, so you go for
it. So what your friend cheated on everyone he/she
has every dated?! With you it will be different. But it
isn’t. The best-friend breakup is particularly bad
because you least expect it. This is someone who
knows what you’ve been through and has been that
shoulder to lean on during tough times. Now they’re
the one causing you harm and you have no shoulder
to lean on. Don’t get me wrong; I’ve seen a couple of
successful relationships rooted in friendship. But
some friends hook up out of desperation and
convenience, so don’t take it personal if it doesn’t
work out.
3. The Wild Card: With the wild card, you never know
what you’re going to get. You’re intrigued by the
“danger of it all.” You stick with them for the
excitement, and the false belief that you can tame
this wild and free soul. Most wild cards have
commitment and stability issues, but we see their
problems as “living on the edge” or “going with the
flow.” Never mind the clusterf*ck of an emotional
roller coaster they put you through. These individuals
have a stream of short-term relationships that all end
due to the “other person’s issues.” The wild card never
takes responsibility for their own actions and will
constantly try to manipulate you with passive-
aggressive behavior when you call them out on their
bull. Trust, this isn’t a ride at the amusement park
that you’ll want to wait in line for.
4. The One You Think You Can Save: This is by far
the most emotionally draining personality type that
you can involve yourself with. The relationship starts
off sweet, with your mate showing you signs of a
normal person who is warm and interesting. Give it
about six weeks. They will have you in tears because
you can see “the potential” of how good you can be
together, but the reality is anything but. Despite what
is being presented, you won’t have sense enough to
leave right away because they “need” you. You believe
that you can change them and most likely have a
strong desire to be needed. These relationships are
particularly damaging because “the victim” is very
good at playing the role. For most of the union, they’ll
have you wondering what you did wrong (which is
nothing), and holding on a bit too long to an already
doomed relationship.
5. The Stepping Stone: The stepping stone is always
looking for something better. They have no problem
using people to fill the void left from an unsuccessful
relationship or until the “right one” comes along. They
ignore the fact that they’re trading in people as if they
are shopping for a car. Unfortunately, you’ll buy into
their affections, not knowing that they’re looking for
the next best thing. They are the epitome of selfish
and can truly damage your self-esteem. No one is
perfect, and many of us have behaved in ways similar
to the personality traits described. The difference is
that some allow their emotions to get the best of them
on occasion, while others dwell in destruction. The
point of this list isn’t to tell you that you’ve made
horrible choices when dating. It’s meant to encourage
you to not give up, to realize that you’ve got to go
through some relationship fails to find your mate.
Often, we can block love from finding us because
we’re looking too hard for it. Love is something that
you just cannot force, because your spirit is what will
attract your mate to you. I’ve dated all of the
personality types above (and then some), and it
hasn’t deterred me. So don’t allow the “nos” to keep
you from your “yes,” “amen” and “then some”!
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Ibrahim Firdaous Atilehin-Oluwa,(FRIZZY) is An Undergraduate From University Of Ilorin. Nigeria.. From Kwara State.
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